This year, I've been trying to read a lot of different books.
Business books to psychology books to theological books to Christian Life books to fiction. Yes, I'm trying to get back into fiction. No, it's not going well. Yes, perhaps I'll reread all of the Harry Potter books because I know 100% of the time they'll be good.
But there's this one book that I've read (spoiler alert: I actually stopped reading it) recently that has made me really sad for the state of our women.
I was really excited to read it at first. The author was new to me, but I saw that she had a huge following on social media and built quite the empire. Plus, the book was a bestseller and a lot of people I respected were cross-promoting. Not to mention, she was a Christian and I'm easily sold when I hear that.
But within the first couple of chapters, I was utterly disappointed.
The topics were the same-old, pump-you-up messages:
"You are good enough!"
"You are beautiful with your curves and all!"
"Social media is a liar!"
"Be who you were meant to be!"
While none of those messages are inherently bad, I kept thinking to myself, "Is this all we're going to evolve to? I feel like I've been hearing this message from a different InstaCeleb for the past ten years. Aren't we ready to go beyond this? When are we as women going to actually believe it, own it and not just move on but move deeper?"
What made me even sadder was that Christian women are more likely to listen to this woman than they are to listen to God. Who, by the way, has said these truths over and over again. Check it: Psalm 139, Ephesians 2:10, Genesis 1.
These messages are ancient (well, sans the social media one, but you get the picture). They are biblical. They are the songs written over your life. Not because the author of this book said it, but because THE Author signed, sealed, and delivered it to you.
It's time for us to move past the hype.
Move past the feel-good.
Move past the consumerism of positive affirmations.
And actually start living as if it were all true.
I worry that our culture has programmed us to be addicted to this type of positivity. That even though it's been used for good, it has become our crutch. I worry that our constant talking about body image is actually perpetuating the fixation on our bodies and not actually moving us into freedom. It's keeping us stuck. I worry that we've become so focused on spending our time making ourselves feel confident and beautiful that we've completely missed the boat on serving others, using our time for more eternal-focused things.
As Ann Voskamp said, "Hear me, Girl. The world has enough women that know how to do their hair. It needs women who know how to do hard and holy things."
So yes, take care of yourself. But do it so you can then outpour and give back to others. There is goodness to positivity and the occasional hype. We just need to make sure we're using it to fuel us into bigger and better things, not keeping us comfortable in mantra-mode, in our insecurity.
Ladies, don't you think it's time we move on? That it's time we move on to things that are deeper and wider?
Women, It’s Time To Move On
November 12, 2018