COVID Was the Best Thing that Happened to My Wedding.
I’m like most gal pals I know: I dreamed of my wedding day.
I couldn’t WAIT to get married. I plotted and planned and envisioned what that perfect day would be like. I made a Pinterest board with all the pretty pins (that was obviously private because ya know – can’t look desperate folks). I was ALL IN on having that spectacular day with friends and family plus all the glitz and glam.
And then I was single.
For what felt like eternity.
So when I finally did get to meet my tall drink of Jesus-lovin’ water – I was really disappointed that 2020 turned out to be….well, 2020.
All of my pretty and polished dreams of having a big, fancypants wedding completely fell out the window. No big party. No 100+ people in attendance. No glamorous barn theme with romantic flower arrangements draping the space or a DJ to play every upbeat Whitney Houston song there ever was.
None of it.
Instead, we planned (very last minute, might I add) a small gathering with just our immediate family on our original date and punted the big celebration a full year. There were a lot of unknowns, but the one thing that wasn’t unknown: we were going to get married on August 8, 2020.
And can I just tell you? It was the best thing ever.
Sure, we were sad that our entire guest list couldn’t come this year, but the intimate time with our families was fun, sacred and oh-so beautiful. Here’s why I’m grateful COVID totally screwed up our wedding plans:
WE GOT TO SOAK UP FAMILY TIME
Both Brent and I grew up in Pittsburgh (but met in Nashville!) and our families still live there. Having a smaller wedding with just our immediate family gave us time with each of our families in our hometown as we melded into one. It was so precious to have quality time with my parents and sister and for Brent’s family to get to spend time with him.
If we had our full wedding, we wouldn’t have had that time. We would’ve been running around and welcoming guests and all the craziness that goes with having a huge wedding. Because of the miniature nature of our wedding, I felt like I could really think about what was happening. About the covenant. About how the wait was worth it. About how cool it was to see God’s orchestration of our love story.
WE’LL GET TO FULLY ENJOY NEXT YEAR
Can you say PARTAYYYY! I mean who gets to have a bumpin’ 1st anniversary party these days!? Well, us COVID couples do!
Plus, there are SO many emotions that come out on your wedding day. It’s a big step – the idea of stepping out of your family and creating a new family with someone else. Parents get emotional. You get emotional. Your spouse gets emotional. Your pastor gets emotional (here’s looking to you Logan!) Tears and tissues for everyone! I also feel like because I got married older, the emotions were compounded.
Needless to say, I was overwhelmed and joyful and hungry and exhausted. All the feels. The day went by so fast, so I’m grateful we get to essentially do it again. I know what I would do differently (eat a proper meal, bring extra deodorant), what pictures I want to get, how I want the flow to go, etc. Plus, I can’t wait to tear up that dance floor with my best friends who walked me through my single years and couldn’t be there.
(Not to mention, I got all those emotional sobs out so that next year my eyes won’t be swollen in every picture.)
Oh, and I never thought I’d be a two-dress bride. But ya know what? I’m so not mad about it.
IT TAUGHT US ABOUT RESILIENCE
A wedding is a day. Marriage is the long game. Going through the engagement season was no joke, but I’m grateful looking back. It wasn’t easy, parts were really tough – but we came out a more resilient couple.
Were we sad that our original wedding didn’t happen? Sure. But the thing that really mattered to us was getting married before God and our family. Everything else was moot.
THERE ARE STILL GOOD THINGS THAT HAPPENED IN 2020
It was fun to get to share our marriage with people in our communities and say, “Hey, look! Yes, even in the midst of the craziness of 2020 – good things DID happen.” Perhaps it’s my eternal optimism or my belief that God is always redeeming things, but I refuse to entertain the notion that 2020 was a wash. I can’t wait to tell our grandkids one day that their grandparents got married in a pandemic. That we were finding the blessings amongst the curse.
If the coronavirus hadn’t ruined our wedding, I would’ve missed out on the graciousness and selflessness of our pastor and wife who drove from NYC to Nashville.
If the coronavirus hadn’t ruined our wedding, I would’ve missed friends blessing us with their time, talents and sweet gifts.
If the coronavirus hadn’t ruined our wedding, I would’ve missed out on an inexplicable level of joy that I just wouldn’t have gotten if everything went my way.
So if you’ve been feeling frustrated. If you’ve been grieving what this year could have been. If you’re over the insanity that seems to be our world – look for the small things. Look for the daily gifts to be grateful for. Keep alert. Because either way – good or bad – you’re going to find what you’re looking for.
P.S. When we got engaged, I kept telling people that God was going to give us the wedding we were supposed to have. While I had ZERO clue what was coming down the road, I’m grateful – that as always, He knows what is better for us than we do.
COVID Was the Best Thing That Happened to My Wedding. Here’s Why.
November 10, 2020